I had a dream that my writing time was uninterrupted. No family drama or emergency took me away from my words. I stayed on task. All the items on my checklist from blogs, to edits to marketing were completed. Then the alarm went off and I woke to reality. And I’m not alone in the real world of writing during crisis. Several writer friends requested prayer or shared their own struggles with meeting deadlines while family tragedies formed around them.
Some are dealing with aging parents and Alzheimer, illness, or tough things with their adult children. Others, it’s teens in rebellion, little ones with special needs, spouses in the hospital and the list goes on.
We will have trials
We don’t get to quit our day jobs to deal with most of this stuff, and our writing is just as important. But we can adjust. One author writes only hundreds of words daily rather than thousands as she waits by the bedside of her ailing mother.
Taking the laptop to the library to distance oneself from family drama for a few hours a day is one way we writers cope. Unfortunate circumstances beyond our control amplify the adage, “there is no perfect time to start writing.”
Jesus reminds us that in this world we will have trials. And as a Christian the second half of the verse rings true for me. He says, “I have overcome the world”. Praying and seeking His peace and clarity is so crucial during family drama.
Keep a journal
No, this is not the time to write about the trial. You’re too close and your emotions too raw. Keep a journal or open a file on your computer and dump all your emotions there. Someday in the distant future all that angst will be fodder for a novel, article, or how-to-endure-family-drama book.
Keep moving forward
For now, you just put one foot in front of the other. Decide what things you need to let go while you deal with the emotional, physical or legal things associated with your trial. I hired a lawyer to deal with all the paperwork for my aging parents. After my father passed, my mother is happy in her assisted living facility. My son’s family lives with us at present and there are times we are responsible for the granddaughters. Drama at work can drain my energy reducing the number of writerly things I get done at the end of the day. Individually, these are only mild hiccups, but when they all come at you like a flood it can send your writing schedule out to sea. And you find yourself struggling to catch a breath and regroup.
Once I established a way to deal with the small stuff the large chaotic surprises have a basic pattern to follow.
- A few hundred words a day is better than none.
- Go to the library or a café for a few hours to work
- Turn off your cell phone if possible
- Don’t accept a large project during a family drama
- Have someone double check your work before submitting because your focus may be skewed now.
- Ask for extensions but keep writing as if you don’t have one.
- Reach out to family and friends for help. Don’t be a super hero. Not only will your writing suffer, but also those you care about most.
Anyone care to add to this list? I’d love to hear how you cope with big and small potholes along your writing journey.
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